I was sitting at the coffee shop talking to a stranger about social media and she said, “the hardest thing about deleting my social media is that it brings me comfort”. There have been moments in my life where I searched for surface-methods to avoid discomfort. My motives have all come from different roots. Some stemmed from fear of loss, others for the fear of the unknown and sometimes simply because I didn’t want to feel down so I’d distract myself from it. In hindsight I realize that all I was doing was teaching myself to seek comforting ways that helped me escape discomfort.
Focus is a powerful thing and it has the ability to almost hypnotize us on the action or thought we are hyper-focused on. Have you ever stared off into space and someone had to wave their hand in front of you to get you out of that trance? That’s what I mean. Now imagine those thoughts being tied to strong emotions like worry, fear, and insecurity. I want you to imagine a small box in your mind and label it with the emotion that those thoughts are emitting in you. Now, I want you to increase the size of the box in accordance with the time you spend overthinking about it. As the box gets bigger the easier it is for your mind to be tempted to place your focus back in because your mind prioritizes it. The bigger the box, the more important your mind thinks it is and it follows your command. It gets to the point where 75%, maybe even 80% of your day is spent in this box and you are overwhelmed therefore finding a way to escape your own mind.
TAKE BACK CONTROL
Your mind loves working on autopilot as much as it can to conserve energy but in moments like these, we want to take back control of the wheel. What does it look like? Well, this week at church I was reminded of a powerful word, encouragement. The best way to feel encouraged with no exterior sources is self-talk. If you have or haven’t tried it this does not matter, you need to be a coach to yourself to avoid bad habits of escaping this box. Social media, venting, overanalyzing, T.V., over eating, work and even gym won’t give you the same power. These may all feel good temporarily but you will quickly be pulled into that box because they all don’t have any specific intention to redirect your focus and only distract your focus. Self-talk can be affirmations, a mantra and even prayer. Your strategy is to gently command your mind to not place your focus there and instead you want to be present. This will take several attempts and constant repetition until you start regaining conscious-control. I suggest meditation, walks, slow breaths, instrumental music without words and a lot of observation of your surroundings. Get your mind back on interacting with your present.
To accept that these emotions don’t feel good but to respond through them in order to change your vibration is to have faith in the process. Building our faith is vital to our spiritual journey. I know how tempting it is to mute the box and just numb your emotions for even just 5 minutes, but I’m going to need you to breathe through it. Slow down your body and command your mind lovingly because you are more powerful than you think. Your present is unfolding before you and it’s your responsibility to be connected to its mysterious guidance. Your willingness to follow the flow of your life is more important than what pulls you into that box, trust me. In time, you will gain this golden wisdom that you never would have if not for this challenge but for now, have a little faith and start the process.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
You are powerful and you have all the strength you need to face anything that brings you discomfort. If support is what you need, I’m only a message away.
Peace & Love be with you!