These words make some women cringe and there’s been talk among men on social media demanding this in a woman. I wonder if we’ve gotten these two words confused.
FEMININITY & MASCULINITY
To better understand this, let’s talk a little bit about this energy force. Yes, I call them an energy force because you can’t have a force without the two. To have one by itself is to not partake in its potential energy exchange. Yes, you can have this exchange with others in different parts of your life but I mean specifically in romantic relationships. Oftentimes we view masculinity as the front lead and femininity as the back lead. Both lead but in different moments of the reciprocation process. Masculinity is known to initiate the lead of direction and femininity known to be in tune with its ability to nurture the energy it’s been given in order to send back in which then the exchange continues. Yes, I’m being very broad because this can easily be it’s own blog but nonetheless masculinity needs a form of submission from the feminine energy to enter in this exchange. So where does it get cringey?
Let’s not get too caught in history but it’s no secret that it got to a point where the view of femininity became jaded. There was a feminine-movement for women’s rights (not to say only women can possess femininity) but this happened because villages turned into a civilization where providing financial stability was held superior over tending to a home. This gave the illusion that being feminine meant you glorified the masculine energy. Soon, instead of a force of energy, it turned more into a funnel where the masculine energy was at the top and feminine energy at the bottom. Everything passed by the masculine and the expectation was for feminines to follow without any input of their strength of wisdom to give back and create the exchange. The definition of passive is to allow what happens without any response or resistance. In other words blocking the potential of what femininity can bring to the exchange. In a partnership, asking one to be passive is to not value the insight they may bring to add to the relationship. The thought of being expected to be passive brings fear to feminines. Now, we must be wondering, “How does a feminine submit then?!”
Female friends of mine often give me a weird look when I say that I have no problem with the idea of submission. You see, I respect the role of masculines because it is a sacrificial role to be the front lead. You must be selfless, earn respect, be trustworthy and be on your A-game to gain the honor of having a feminine submit to your lead. I often go back to the scene in the movie Avatar II where they are selecting a dragon to partner up and fly the skies with. In the movie, if you had a dragon, this was a huge honor and the tribe respected you. These dragons were known to be powerful and the tribe knew it so they began this ritual to show the dragons they are worthy to lead them in hopes they would submit to their lead. Now, in the movie they tussle and fight with the dragon but it doesn’t have to be this way, don’t take it literally just take away the moral of submission. Submission is a choice feminines make because they see that the masculine’s actions are in the benefit of the force rather than its own. They submit to the lead the masculine provides, not specifically the person itself but the lead they provide, there’s a fine difference. True-feminine’s carefully observe if the masculine has shown discipline, self-control, integrity and in addition, sincerity through their lifestyle choices and actions. A true-feminine doesn’t submit to just anyone’s lead, they observe and then make their choice. Submitting is a courtship on its own and it’s not in a masculine’s place to demand it.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
Remember, when the masculine decides to serve selflessly and the feminine to submit selflessly… both doing it for the well-being of the force, the powerful exchange begins. Then, we will see why they say, “Behind a great man is a great woman”.