There are events and thoughts that sometimes won’t let us sleep or function in the day. We spend hours analyzing, assuming and coming up with different scenarios. Maybe we don’t see it physically, but we can feel our heart race, our breath shorten and our stomach turn. I know, it doesn’t feel great. If the body is so stimulated, how is stillness our superpower?
Have you ever gone swimming in a lazy river? This mysterious current sends you around and around with no visible object or person responsible for it. Well, there are pumps not visible to us that cause this motion with no effort of our own. What if I told you that you have pumps in your body that work similarly to this? These pumps are your breath, mind and heart. They send a current that I like to refer to as, “energy-flow”. Now imagine this flow of energy changing its form depending on your emotional state. If you are angry, most likely your heart, and breath will pick up speed causing this energy-flow to move rapidly in your body. Our body works side by side with our mind and so once our body becomes stimulated in such a way, our brain will start to respond with thoughts that match that energy. If it’s anger, you’ll stay angry and if it’s sadness, you’ll stay sad. Your mind will provoke the body, the body provoking the mind and this energy exchange will continue unless you do something about it.
DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
When you are full of an emotion that doesn’t feel good, and your body is extremely stimulated, it may seem as though it’s impossible to become still. Trust me, I know! All you want to do is keep reacting to this emotion and feed it. At that point, you are going to need to coach yourself as I’ve been saying in my other blogs. I remember going through something that gave me extreme anxiety and made me worry, but I knew I wanted to stop reacting to this rapid river in my body to take back control. The desire to stay calm, cool and collected (my mantra) was much greater than being a slave to my emotions, it was my motivation. We choose how we want to behave despite those around us and the events that happen to us. I wish I could show you how little I really believed that before, it was just a cute quote to me at one point. I would listen to all these spiritual teachers and would often read it in the bible but I wasn’t challenging myself enough in times when I needed it. I'd choose to do it 50% of the time and I just did it at a surface level which is to suppress emotions and escape the mind. I thought it was more of a, “It’s the right thing to do” so I’d try but I never really felt like it was much more than that. Then, one day I REALLY devoted myself to the challenge and I was amazed.
I can vividly recall this burning desire to feel my emotions with class and take my power back. I knew I’d gain self-respect if I could really conquer this so I looked in the mirror and literally gave myself a pep talk, haha. I told myself I was a woman with class, a woman that knew how to handle her emotions and that I was going to be a different caliber of a woman once I mastered this. First, I knew I had to become a student. If we haven't mastered something we must learn from those who have. I hopped on youtube and searched, “How to stay calm” and I began to listen to different testimonials on how others have done it until my mind collected enough information to follow. Some of the things that helped me were soft instrumental music, breathing, slowing down every movement I took during that day and repeating my mantra, “cool, calm and collected”. I still felt those emotions in my stomach and one of my teachers on youtube said, “You can feel those emotions but you can feel them calmly”. I sat in my thinking chair (yes I have a chair for thinking) and I began to allow sadness to release in tears, but calmly. After that, I swear I felt like a third eye opened up because I felt as though heaven was showing me different insights about my situation that were clouded with my own emotions. I began to feel thankful, love and deep compassion for those I felt had something to do with me being upset. I felt as though I meditated for 1 hour because I reached such a heightened state of love I had only felt a handful of times in my life. I was extremely shocked and it was then that I knew I had unveiled the power of what it meant to truly become still. I’m sure this lesson will continue to evolve and I’m going to continue to grow. I had so much faith that I would never be the same after that and I’m glad I put work into that challenge.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I deeply encourage all of us to continue to practice the power of stillness. It is transformational and if you would love support, I'm only a message away.
Peace and Love be with you!