MOVING ON

Moving on, this phrase we like to use when we want to turn the page but yet find it difficult to start a new chapter.
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How does it work, really?
Despite all the whirl of emotions that were stirred up to make this choice, it is do-able and it will take conscious effort. Think about the times we have had to move on without any effort or even choice. For example, getting older, going from elementary to high school, getting a new boss, getting that new house, new car and many other life events where we experience what it’s like to move on. What makes all those events different from an emotional attachment we want or need to move on from? The clarity of knowing where you are moving onto. So, what makes moving on so unsettling for many of us? The unknown.

The Unknown 
Human behavior has shown time and time again that it is difficult to be at peace with the unknown, why? The ego, this part of us that makes us human, the part of us that judges by what it has seen in the past and what it sees in the present to make distinct assumptions to help us survive. If you are not clear on where you are going or how you will cope while you move on, your ego will flood your mind with fear and memories to motivate your decision in not changing your situation. All of a sudden, you will consciously focus on thoughts that will cause you to settle because your ego will convince you that this is as good as it gets. Your ego will start to bring up all the reasons why you can’t leave the situation. Even worse, it will fill you with pride by focusing on what people would say or think and who would take the place you are leaving so that you grow blind with envy. We must be aware of our ego and remain conscious during this journey.

Consciously Moving On
Self-talk
This is more than just saying positive affirmations, it’s about having conversations with ourselves about what’s on our mind. This causes us to consciously respond to any emotions that may overwhelm us at the moment so that we can detect what our ego is doing to influence us. 
Intention
Having a focus on an intention is to take back control on where your energy is going. Being clear on what you want to achieve whether it be spiritual, emotional, mentally or even something tangible. This calms your ego’s motive to manipulate your mind by giving it some type of certainty that the new chapter you are moving onto is safe. 
The power of surrendering
Having an understanding that we are a part of agape; this universal energy of love, and that if we are out of alignment with that, we have the power to let go of what doesn’t serve us any longer and come back in harmony. 

I wish you well on your new chapter. Build the relationship with yourself using constructive self-talk, taking action towards your intentions and surrendering through it all. 

Peace and love be with you
Love, Victoria GOLD