These words make some women cringe and there’s been talk among men on social media demanding this in a woman. I wonder if we’ve gotten these two words confused.
FEMININITY & MASCULINITY
To better understand this, let’s talk a little bit about this energy force. Yes, I call them an energy force because you can’t have a force without the two. To have one by itself is to not partake in its potential energy exchange. Yes, you can have this exchange with others in different parts of your life but I mean specifically in romantic relationships. Oftentimes we view masculinity as the front lead and femininity as the back lead. Both lead but in different moments of the reciprocation process. Masculinity is known to initiate the lead of direction and femininity known to be in tune with its ability to nurture the energy it’s been given in order to send back in which then the exchange continues. Yes, I’m being very broad because this can easily be it’s own blog but nonetheless masculinity needs a form of submission from the feminine energy to enter in this exchange. So where does it get cringey?
Let’s not get too caught in history but it’s no secret that it got to a point where the view of femininity became jaded. There was a feminine-movement for women’s rights (not to say only women can possess femininity) but this happened because villages turned into a civilization where providing financial stability was held superior over tending to a home. This gave the illusion that being feminine meant you glorified the masculine energy. Soon, instead of a force of energy, it turned more into a funnel where the masculine energy was at the top and feminine energy at the bottom. Everything passed by the masculine and the expectation was for feminines to follow without any input of their strength of wisdom to give back and create the exchange. The definition of passive is to allow what happens without any response or resistance. In other words blocking the potential of what femininity can bring to the exchange. In a partnership, asking one to be passive is to not value the insight they may bring to add to the relationship. The thought of being expected to be passive brings fear to feminines. Now, we must be wondering, “How does a feminine submit then?!”
Female friends of mine often give me a weird look when I say that I have no problem with the idea of submission. You see, I respect the role of masculines because it is a sacrificial role to be the front lead. You must be selfless, earn respect, be trustworthy and be on your A-game to gain the honor of having a feminine submit to your lead. I often go back to the scene in the movie Avatar II where they are selecting a dragon to partner up and fly the skies with. In the movie, if you had a dragon, this was a huge honor and the tribe respected you. These dragons were known to be powerful and the tribe knew it so they began this ritual to show the dragons they are worthy to lead them in hopes they would submit to their lead. Now, in the movie they tussle and fight with the dragon but it doesn’t have to be this way, don’t take it literally just take away the moral of submission. Submission is a choice feminines make because they see that the masculine’s actions are in the benefit of the force rather than its own. They submit to the lead the masculine provides, not specifically the person itself but the lead they provide, there’s a fine difference. True-feminine’s carefully observe if the masculine has shown discipline, self-control, integrity and in addition, sincerity through their lifestyle choices and actions. A true-feminine doesn’t submit to just anyone’s lead, they observe and then make their choice. Submitting is a courtship on its own and it’s not in a masculine’s place to demand it.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
Remember, when the masculine decides to serve selflessly and the feminine to submit selflessly… both doing it for the well-being of the force, the powerful exchange begins. Then, we will see why they say, “Behind a great man is a great woman”.
This life has its ups and downs. Sometimes it feels like everything is aligning in a way that is beyond perfect, then we experience moments of disappointment and maybe humiliation. It’s in those lows that we experience this heavy pressure of grief and when I see people in that place it pains me. I fear that we will allow these moments to make us bitter and cynical because we don’t know how to process pain with intention.
LET GO OF THE EGO
In moments of grief, we want to fluff our ego and numb our emotions with pride. We exchange sadness for anger and we begin to let social media influence us with ideas like, “I didn’t need them anyway!”. All of that is the ego trying to create the illusion that we are superior to the pain and this blocks us from learning from it. I get it, it doesn’t feel good for an event or a person to affect us but the reality is, it did have an affect on us. It’s sad that we live in a time where we think our ego is our God, the place we go to in moments like these and we allow it to manipulate us. I know how addicting it can be to perform from the ego, it’s an adrenaline rush and it helps deflect pain but I can’t stress enough how destructive it is for us and to society to live this way. Pushing past the temptation of the ego’s coping mechanism to deflect will allow us to accept, learn and heal. Before you roll your eyes and stop reading, just hang in there. People say how crucial it is to heal but what does it really do and why should we do it?
Healing is the only way to preserve who we really are so that we hold integrity to ourselves. Healing allows us to mature and open our mind to new levels of understanding. As you’ve probably noticed, healing helps us to transform and with transformation we evolve into a higher caliber of being. We cannot truly level up by going to the gym, making money moves, or getting the next best thing. We must heal and to many this may sound useless but I say this because I was that person who couldn’t do it for so long. I was taught to just “put your head down and work!” and so I did. It got to a point where I was numb, the men I dated at that point often told me that it seemed like I didn’t have any emotions. I was in denial for a while until I noticed how my personality began to change and I didn't feel like myself.
To heal we must accept what affected us, why it affected us and acknowledge any insecurities that follow. I urge us to write all of it down so that we don’t dwell and so that we can visually see our thoughts. Once we write these very intimate thoughts down, allow emotion to rise but do it calmly. We can feel strong emotions in a calm state. Yes we can cry, and we can get upset but we do this calmly. After emotions leave our body, sit in silence or with soft instrumental music. The soul knows how to re-calibrate the body naturally, it will begin to pick your spirits up gently. It won’t come in the form of a rush, it will be gentle and we’ll feel the soul take the wheel back of our consciousness. It will begin to give us wisdom of our situation and we’ll feel renewed. This isn’t a one time thing and it’s done, sometimes this will happen in waves and it will be a repetition process but we must be patient. Remember that our integrity matters, our true-self is worth the effort. There will come a point where we feel a surge of inspiration to love the world harder because we learn that it’s valuable in this world we are living in. We must empathize before we criticize even if we were the one hurt. People need love more than revenge, we can still let go of people but we can let go with love as cheesy as that may sound. Letting them go with love is for the purpose of preserving our aura. We will realize that we will start to come back to ourselves and we will never go through pain the same again.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I hope that you trust in the process of going through pain as much as you may not want to feel discomfort. Relying on the ego will always be temporary and it will never satisfy. Instead, trust in your inner super-genius that I like to call, your soul.
Oprah Winfrey once said, “You’re either in flow or out of it…The flow is in proportion to the center of yourself where God and the universal energy abides”. The flow will feel peaceful despite the chaos that may or may not be happening in life. It’s when we are distracted that we go against the flow.
AGAINST THE FLOW
Going against the flow will happen from time to time but it’s our responsibility to assess and re-evaluate where we place our energy so that we can come back to the flow. Imagine a gentle stream and feel as though you are in it. All of a sudden you notice a rock and you decide to stop to hold on to it, what will happen? You can probably guess that the stream will go from feeling gentle to heavy because you have gone against it. This happens when we place our energy in something or someone that isn’t a part of the flow we are on. We try to figure out how we can make it work; how we can remain flowing while carrying the rock. I know it seems silly to think this would work but we don’t even realize that this is what we are doing in our actual life. We knew deep down we shouldn't have taken part in that extra project, gotten in that relationship or allowed temptation to control us but yet we did. Greed and fear make us feel that if we let go of that rock we will regret it.
LETTING GO OF THE ROCK
We must first have deep and profound curiosity about uncovering the rocks in our lives. Some of us get to a point where going against the flow feels so normal that we allow suffering to be a lifestyle. Anxiety becomes something we must deal with, meditation becomes an escape rather than a practice, and peace only happens when exterior sources give us the validation we secretly desire. Therefore, curiosity is where the process must begin so that we start to question our current reality. We all have an inkling about what these rocks are in our lives but we do a great job at convincing ourselves that we must keep placing our efforts in that place so that we “fight for what we want!”. Unfortunately, this gets misinterpreted far too often. If anything in life compromises our character, let it go. If holding onto someone means allowing disrespect, let them go. If a commitment in our life gets in the way of our health and drains us, let it go. Greed is when we choose to pursue something or someone even if it will cost the well being of others and our own. Doing something out of integrity and not honoring others will be catastrophic to our inner being in a way we can’t even grasp which affects our well being. Not letting go interferes with our purpose that lives within a bigger purpose.
FAITH IN THE PURPOSE
In our mind, we may understand purpose as this one assignment that must be done in our life. I myself have seen it this way but have come to evolve my definition of it. I believe purpose is being in the flow and in that flow we will meet people, complete assignments and evolve spiritually. In that flow, we aren't the main character, we are simply a part of a bigger purpose where others intersect that should’ve or else certain assignments wouldn’t have manifested into completion. Purpose is a Divine and Universal flow we are a part of. Having faith in the purpose is to stop resisting and to surrender to its will in our life. Knowing this truth in my core helps me realign and let go so that I can come back to the divine flow.
Message from Victoria GOLD
I hope that as you unfold with life, you remind yourself of the flow. As the days get heavy with responsibilities, don’t forget to practice stillness so that you can feel the flow and have peace in what it may ask you to leave behind. Peace and love be with you, remember I’m only a message away.
There are events and thoughts that sometimes won’t let us sleep or function in the day. We spend hours analyzing, assuming and coming up with different scenarios. Maybe we don’t see it physically, but we can feel our heart race, our breath shorten and our stomach turn. I know, it doesn’t feel great. If the body is so stimulated, how is stillness our superpower?
Have you ever gone swimming in a lazy river? This mysterious current sends you around and around with no visible object or person responsible for it. Well, there are pumps not visible to us that cause this motion with no effort of our own. What if I told you that you have pumps in your body that work similarly to this? These pumps are your breath, mind and heart. They send a current that I like to refer to as, “energy-flow”. Now imagine this flow of energy changing its form depending on your emotional state. If you are angry, most likely your heart, and breath will pick up speed causing this energy-flow to move rapidly in your body. Our body works side by side with our mind and so once our body becomes stimulated in such a way, our brain will start to respond with thoughts that match that energy. If it’s anger, you’ll stay angry and if it’s sadness, you’ll stay sad. Your mind will provoke the body, the body provoking the mind and this energy exchange will continue unless you do something about it.
DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
When you are full of an emotion that doesn’t feel good, and your body is extremely stimulated, it may seem as though it’s impossible to become still. Trust me, I know! All you want to do is keep reacting to this emotion and feed it. At that point, you are going to need to coach yourself as I’ve been saying in my other blogs. I remember going through something that gave me extreme anxiety and made me worry, but I knew I wanted to stop reacting to this rapid river in my body to take back control. The desire to stay calm, cool and collected (my mantra) was much greater than being a slave to my emotions, it was my motivation. We choose how we want to behave despite those around us and the events that happen to us. I wish I could show you how little I really believed that before, it was just a cute quote to me at one point. I would listen to all these spiritual teachers and would often read it in the bible but I wasn’t challenging myself enough in times when I needed it. I'd choose to do it 50% of the time and I just did it at a surface level which is to suppress emotions and escape the mind. I thought it was more of a, “It’s the right thing to do” so I’d try but I never really felt like it was much more than that. Then, one day I REALLY devoted myself to the challenge and I was amazed.
I can vividly recall this burning desire to feel my emotions with class and take my power back. I knew I’d gain self-respect if I could really conquer this so I looked in the mirror and literally gave myself a pep talk, haha. I told myself I was a woman with class, a woman that knew how to handle her emotions and that I was going to be a different caliber of a woman once I mastered this. First, I knew I had to become a student. If we haven't mastered something we must learn from those who have. I hopped on youtube and searched, “How to stay calm” and I began to listen to different testimonials on how others have done it until my mind collected enough information to follow. Some of the things that helped me were soft instrumental music, breathing, slowing down every movement I took during that day and repeating my mantra, “cool, calm and collected”. I still felt those emotions in my stomach and one of my teachers on youtube said, “You can feel those emotions but you can feel them calmly”. I sat in my thinking chair (yes I have a chair for thinking) and I began to allow sadness to release in tears, but calmly. After that, I swear I felt like a third eye opened up because I felt as though heaven was showing me different insights about my situation that were clouded with my own emotions. I began to feel thankful, love and deep compassion for those I felt had something to do with me being upset. I felt as though I meditated for 1 hour because I reached such a heightened state of love I had only felt a handful of times in my life. I was extremely shocked and it was then that I knew I had unveiled the power of what it meant to truly become still. I’m sure this lesson will continue to evolve and I’m going to continue to grow. I had so much faith that I would never be the same after that and I’m glad I put work into that challenge.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I deeply encourage all of us to continue to practice the power of stillness. It is transformational and if you would love support, I'm only a message away.
Peace and Love be with you!
I was sitting at the coffee shop talking to a stranger about social media and she said, “the hardest thing about deleting my social media is that it brings me comfort”. There have been moments in my life where I searched for surface-methods to avoid discomfort. My motives have all come from different roots. Some stemmed from fear of loss, others for the fear of the unknown and sometimes simply because I didn’t want to feel down so I’d distract myself from it. In hindsight I realize that all I was doing was teaching myself to seek comforting ways that helped me escape discomfort.
Focus is a powerful thing and it has the ability to almost hypnotize us on the action or thought we are hyper-focused on. Have you ever stared off into space and someone had to wave their hand in front of you to get you out of that trance? That’s what I mean. Now imagine those thoughts being tied to strong emotions like worry, fear, and insecurity. I want you to imagine a small box in your mind and label it with the emotion that those thoughts are emitting in you. Now, I want you to increase the size of the box in accordance with the time you spend overthinking about it. As the box gets bigger the easier it is for your mind to be tempted to place your focus back in because your mind prioritizes it. The bigger the box, the more important your mind thinks it is and it follows your command. It gets to the point where 75%, maybe even 80% of your day is spent in this box and you are overwhelmed therefore finding a way to escape your own mind.
TAKE BACK CONTROL
Your mind loves working on autopilot as much as it can to conserve energy but in moments like these, we want to take back control of the wheel. What does it look like? Well, this week at church I was reminded of a powerful word, encouragement. The best way to feel encouraged with no exterior sources is self-talk. If you have or haven’t tried it this does not matter, you need to be a coach to yourself to avoid bad habits of escaping this box. Social media, venting, overanalyzing, T.V., over eating, work and even gym won’t give you the same power. These may all feel good temporarily but you will quickly be pulled into that box because they all don’t have any specific intention to redirect your focus and only distract your focus. Self-talk can be affirmations, a mantra and even prayer. Your strategy is to gently command your mind to not place your focus there and instead you want to be present. This will take several attempts and constant repetition until you start regaining conscious-control. I suggest meditation, walks, slow breaths, instrumental music without words and a lot of observation of your surroundings. Get your mind back on interacting with your present.
To accept that these emotions don’t feel good but to respond through them in order to change your vibration is to have faith in the process. Building our faith is vital to our spiritual journey. I know how tempting it is to mute the box and just numb your emotions for even just 5 minutes, but I’m going to need you to breathe through it. Slow down your body and command your mind lovingly because you are more powerful than you think. Your present is unfolding before you and it’s your responsibility to be connected to its mysterious guidance. Your willingness to follow the flow of your life is more important than what pulls you into that box, trust me. In time, you will gain this golden wisdom that you never would have if not for this challenge but for now, have a little faith and start the process.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
You are powerful and you have all the strength you need to face anything that brings you discomfort. If support is what you need, I’m only a message away.
Peace & Love be with you!
I laid in bed running the same fears in my mind that had been controlling me all week. Day after day I felt as though my emotions were drowning me. Fortunately, because I was busy I was able to compartmentalize my emotions and show up for my responsibilities. On the other hand, when I was away from anything that required my full attention, I’d sink back into the emotions that made me feel confused and doubtful. I didn’t know what I needed.
There are windows of interruption in moments where we feel off and distracted by things that don’t empower us. These interruptions are seeds of suggestion that are given to us by our intuition. Some believe their intuition is connected to a higher power and for me it’s God. I was praying all week for some guidance and there it was in my mind in the form of a vision. I saw the beach so vividly I could smell the wet sand and feel the misty breeze. This triggered an idea in my head to go on my run I look forward to every Saturday. Although I had all these reasons as to why I should stay in bed, I knew better than to disobey my intuition so I got up and drove to the beach.
As I drove to the beach I noticed a word in my head, reset. I didn’t try to over analyze why this word came up, I just took it as Heaven's way of telling me that's what I was on my way to do. I turned off my stereo and drove in silence. I challenged my mind to stay present and asked it to let go of any thoughts that would come up. I got to the beach, stood next to the pier near the water where I like to start my runs and felt like I was meant to be there. I ran with no music so that I could meditate to the sound of the crashing waves since the beach was quiet and not too busy. While on my run I accidentally ran in a large puddle of water and my feet were soaked! I laughed and the word, cleansed came into my mind. I smiled and thought, “Yes, I needed that!”. After my run I stretched on the wet sand and I felt renewed. I walked back to my car to head to my favorite local juice shop and felt so thankful. I was glad that I had listened to intuition.
I NEEDED REMINDING
I left the juice shop with my pressed juice, wrap in hand and I thought to myself, “Wow, I suddenly feel like myself”. I put on my headset, looked up to the sky at the same time the song, “Look up child” came on. This song is about God reminding us who we are and how powerful we are. I didn’t know that I needed a reminder of who I was. Just like that, I felt stronger and certain that anything that came my way I’d be able to overcome.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I know we may get overwhelmed with events in our lives, maybe mistakes or even new beginnings. Sometimes those fears and doubts become our focus and dominant vibration in our bodies. I hope that when we have those windows of interruptions, we obey our intuition, reset our mind and allow life to remind us of our true aura. Peace & love be with you and remember I'm only a message away!
We get into situations where we feel like we've invested too much, we’d be a fool to stop or maybe we won’t be in a better situation. We contemplate different scenarios in our heads about how it would look like to keep going or how it would look like to stop. What would it mean to start again?
To start again can sometimes confuse us into thinking we are giving up. To give up a dream, a goal or an idea that brings us hope, is to literally kill it in our psyche. Killing something in our mind that brought us hope is, I believe worse than never having had it at all. The outcome of this can be detrimental because we don’t realize how connected we are to it. To give something up by choice can have a way of changing our outlook on life. We may begin a domino effect and lose motivation in other areas of our lives as well. I believe giving up comes best when it absolutely harms our inner peace and what we are giving up was simply coming from egotistical motives. In this case, giving up will only build us up. I’ve had moments where instead of starting again for the 6th time I’d rather give up altogether, but If I strongly feel that I was called to pursue something, I start again.
ARE WE STARTING FROM SCRATCH?
Sometimes it may feel like if we start anything over again, we’ll start from scratch but I don’t think that’s the case. Thankfully, every time we go through something we have the opportunity to grow through it. I was helping a friend organize their kitchen and let me tell you, it was extremely disorganized! I took out everything from the drawers and placed them on a table. This allowed me to do two things: examine the empty drawers and examine everything that had occupied those drawers. As soon as I started to identify what would remain in the kitchen and what wouldn’t, I began to gain massive momentum and with that momentum I was able to finish. When we clear things off entirely, it may seem like we’re starting from scratch but instead we are able to start again. When we start over, we get a chance to see our reality from a distance. We can take a moment to lay out all our actions on the table and sort out the ones that will remain from the ones that won’t. In doing so, we are able to clearly envision the path we want to take so that it aligns with our true intentions.
REVIVING OUR VISION
Starting again can revamp many things in our life including our vision. Reviving our vision can help us stimulate the passion we had when we first started. It can inspire us and refresh our hope. We can put together the insights we’ve gained thus far so that we may build a strong foundation to carry out our vision. Rebuilding our foundation can be pivotal in the longevity of our journey. There will still be challenges along the way and no one is immune to that but this will build confidence throughout the process. I will end this with a quote by Meister Eckart, “And suddenly you know: It's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings”.
Message from Victoria GOLD
Starting again is magical and it re-aligns you in a way that could've never been possible without making those previous mistakes. Peace and love be with you & remember I’m only a message away!
There was a viral video where music artist, Halsey, made a comment about her mom telling her that having butterflies for someone is a red flag. She goes on to explain how her mom told her that if you are waiting to get this adrenaline rush of validation every time they give you some sort of sign that they approve of you it’s not a good thing and instead it’s manipulation. Is having butterflies a good thing?
Normally when people refer to butterflies they refer to this giddy and almost swirl of emotion in the center of their stomach. We get this sensation in moments we are interacting with someone we are interested in or even in times we simply think about them. Oftentimes it’s an indicator for people to move towards those who give them this sensation and they usually do. I will admit that there were moments I didn’t feel this way about men I dated and I will also confess that I didn’t have strong feelings for the ones I didn't get butterflies for. Adding to this observation, I realized that in these butterfly-less connections, I didn’t have this motive or inspiration to really keep things going. I do not necessarily agree that having butterflies is a red flag but I do agree with the mom about how important it is to reflect on when and why we are getting butterflies. The root of where they come from is a key indicator of how we should navigate these butterflies.
“Don’t tell them too much, leave it a mystery. People are attracted to mystery” I’ve heard this said many times and I can’t tell you how cringey this is for me to hear. If we are feeling butterflies every time they reveal some type of attraction to us that isn’t always obvious, this could be a problem. There is a mind game called, “entice and withdraw”, where a person will show interest at first but then withdraw their attention so that they keep the person guessing whether they like them or not. I will point blank say, THIS IS BAD! If we are placed in positions where it seems as though we are getting mixed signals from someone, these butterflies should be evaluated. A more subtle manipulation is when someone withholds information in order to again, “keep you on your toes”. If you are engaging in conversation and they give you short answers to questions, you may find yourself wanting to see them more in hopes to connect, hence feeling butterflies at the chance you get to see them and in times where they give you a little more about themselves. This creates the illusion that you are the lucky one who gets to know more about them. If butterflies stem from any type of illusion where you are just so special because they give you significance, these butterflies will turn to desperation for validation. Butterflies can be a beautiful indicator that you are excited about someone and that your energies draw each other closer but it must come from a genuine place.
Let’s set the setting: You are getting ready to see them and you are excited to share time together. You are eager to feel this rush of energy that emerges just by catching the first glimpse of them when you finally meet. You converse and share your depths to each other, every piece of information you get from them you feel butterflies because you continue to realize what a match you both are. The more you both share, the stronger these butterflies get and you both begin to open up about the feelings you have for one another. These butterflies begin as a spark, if two people feel that spark it moves through a flow of energy, and it only builds momentum. It's the feeling of an energy exchange from one person to the other. Butterflies are meant to be felt, it’s part of the romance of life and a gift from nature to find our match.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
Love-life may be complex and sometimes frustrating to navigate. I hope that you can learn to trust your intuition that I like to call your inner-compass. Peace & Love be with you and remember I’m only a message away
We adopt many narratives about what it means to be a high-quality person. There is talk about what depreciates our value. We place ourselves on social platforms as though auctioning our lifestyles and we measure it by our following. Then, our attention is pulled to our physical appearance and what society or culture finds appealing. We chase after these trends and narratives in hopes to become relevant. A dog will chase a cat, a ball and even a feather with no substantial motive. Are the priorities in our lives becoming a meaningless and temporary chase? Is our worth something meant to be treated like a chase?
CHASING OUR WORTH
Chasing our worth would mean that our worth is outside of ourselves. It is to say that we are irrelevant until we can obtain this idea that we have in our minds of what it is to be worthy. Is this true? I’m sure many people would answer this and say, “Of course not!”, yet time and time again we fall into this cycle. We think there is something else we need or someone’s approval we must gain. I have been responsible for this cycle in my own life. Sometimes it can be tempting in a world where opinions are placed on a pedestal at the touch of a screen. We program in our mind that the viral sensation is to be worshiped and how can we blame ourselves? We are simply survival-beings trying to fit in so that we can find our tribe. It is our survival instinct to mold ourselves to fit in and I must also urge to say that it is our soul’s nature to be genuine. This is why when the world worships owning a castle and we obtain it, we still feel dissatisfied because it never was a genuine desire of our own until the world claimed it as relevant. Being genuine can become clouded with all the noise but it should be our mission to protect it and preserve it.
A mentor of mine once said to me, “you were meant to guide and support others because you see the good in everyone no matter where they’re at”. I always fell in love with a good under-dog movie and the average-Joe turned hero. I was in sales and I would hire people of all backgrounds but one thing they all had in common was potential. I could see their Gold within even if they maybe couldn’t see it themselves. I would spend time with those that were maybe overlooked in the office and in a few weeks they would achieve a #1 award in the office. I just knew that if I could reveal to them that they had Gold inside, they could change their perspective about themselves and others. I was unaware that all I was doing was reminding them that they were already worthy but all I was doing was supporting their journey in manifesting it.
MANIFESTING OUR WORTH
I’m a firm believer that we all possess our worth no matter where we’re at in life but it’s up to us to manifest it. I was bullied when I was younger and very quickly I adopted a timid persona. I started in sales at the age of 18 and I followed this intuitive-knowing that I had something great to offer inside of me. I remember my start in sales and it was not pretty. haha I was horrible but I could never seem to shake off this whisper that I could be great if I wanted to be. There was a point when people in the office overlooked me for good reason and I truly don’t say this with a resentful heart. I understand why people kind of just passed me by, I was horrible! To say that I built myself up would not be right because I know God was there beside me showing me how to manifest my worth. Soon, I’d grab the attention of my mentor and others who helped me gain strength along the way. Yes, I achieved multiple awards, recognition, promotions, titles and even all expenses paid trips but it took me a while to understand something vital. All of those achievements weren’t what made up my worth. My worth had always been there even before manifesting all of that, I just had to have the will to manifest it.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I hope you can take moments in your week to sit down and silence the noise around you. Take time to sit to acknowledge your Gold within and detach from feeling the need to do anything to stimulate your belief of it's existence. Your genuine desires will show the path to manifesting it. Peace & Love be with you and remember, I'm only a message away.
We have access to instant stimulation through online shopping, online dating, interactions on social media and much more. This type of access gives us the ability to become almost hypnotized to the highs and lows of it’s doing. Has stimulation become the cornerstone of our interactions?
I like to describe stimulation as a spark of sensation created by something outside of ourselves. Dictionary.com defines it as, “the action of arousing interest, enthusiasm, or excitement”. If we notice closely, we can see that stimulation places us as the receiver of energy. At our fingertips we have access to stir up emotions we wish to feel in our bodies. Whether that is to affirm what we don’t like or validate what we want, we are merely a sponge experiencing the process of soaking up all this energy. Overtime we become familiar with the reactions it stirs in our bodies and because we like it, we stay in the current, like the turtles in Finding Nemo. In the events we find ourselves away from that current of stimulation, we feel an abrupt halt and we feel dazed like we are coming out of a trance. We feel this decrease of stimulation and we are tempted to swim back in the current. Stimulation provides this sense of comfort because we are creatures that believe if we are receiving energy, we are significant. I fear that stimulation has been replaced by our effort to truly connect. Are we getting stimulation and connection confused?
There is talk about having more than 5 senses but the basics are sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch. A book I enjoy reading, “Essentials of Psychology”, mentions how our senses increase and decrease in tolerance. Once you have gotten used to a level of stimulation through one of your senses, it requires more of it to feel the same type of reaction. We are adaptive beings that can adjust our tolerance levels to mold into our environment and survive. This leads to a thought of how people can get lost in the cycle of dating multiple people for short periods at a time. I don’t mean getting to know people in order to find a potential match to date. I mean the quick turn around it takes for a person to break things off with someone they are dating to then dating someone new. The end of dating someone leads to a decrease of happy chemicals in our body therefore one is tempted to find stimulation through someone else. We may not realize that we tend to drive relationships through stimulation rather than connection. Our senses may be useful to point us in the direction of a potential connection but in order to connect, it requires people who are willing to engage in a way that many find unfamiliar.
Let's talk about intimacy. “In an intimate interaction, partners reveal their private selves to one another, sharing parts of themselves that are ordinarily hidden” Encyclopedia.com. Intimacy is an exchange of giving and receiving our depths to one another. Unlike stimulation, intimacy doesn’t just happen, it unfolds gracefully among people who are willing to serve. You can’t just be a sponge and soak up all the energy, you must be proactive in the process. Intimacy takes effort but not effort to where it’s forced, this effort naturally grows momentum through people that intuitively want to connect. I say intuitively to acknowledge this mystery that leads people to connect with others whether it is platonically or romantically. When we connect with others around us, we feel refreshed, inspired and our insight of life may even become elevated. We feel as though we were meant to connect with others because it is in our nature to do so. Stimulation does not require us to be present but in order for us to reach a connection we must be. When two or more givers come ready to serve one another, this creates intimacy and that is to truly connect.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I challenge us that in everything we do, we look for ways to be of service. When we create the opportunity to serve, we create opportunities to connect.
Peace & Love be with you all and remember, I'm only a message away.