There are events and thoughts that sometimes won’t let us sleep or function in the day. We spend hours analyzing, assuming and coming up with different scenarios. Maybe we don’t see it physically, but we can feel our heart race, our breath shorten and our stomach turn. I know, it doesn’t feel great. If the body is so stimulated, how is stillness our superpower?
Have you ever gone swimming in a lazy river? This mysterious current sends you around and around with no visible object or person responsible for it. Well, there are pumps not visible to us that cause this motion with no effort of our own. What if I told you that you have pumps in your body that work similarly to this? These pumps are your breath, mind and heart. They send a current that I like to refer to as, “energy-flow”. Now imagine this flow of energy changing its form depending on your emotional state. If you are angry, most likely your heart, and breath will pick up speed causing this energy-flow to move rapidly in your body. Our body works side by side with our mind and so once our body becomes stimulated in such a way, our brain will start to respond with thoughts that match that energy. If it’s anger, you’ll stay angry and if it’s sadness, you’ll stay sad. Your mind will provoke the body, the body provoking the mind and this energy exchange will continue unless you do something about it.
DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
When you are full of an emotion that doesn’t feel good, and your body is extremely stimulated, it may seem as though it’s impossible to become still. Trust me, I know! All you want to do is keep reacting to this emotion and feed it. At that point, you are going to need to coach yourself as I’ve been saying in my other blogs. I remember going through something that gave me extreme anxiety and made me worry, but I knew I wanted to stop reacting to this rapid river in my body to take back control. The desire to stay calm, cool and collected (my mantra) was much greater than being a slave to my emotions, it was my motivation. We choose how we want to behave despite those around us and the events that happen to us. I wish I could show you how little I really believed that before, it was just a cute quote to me at one point. I would listen to all these spiritual teachers and would often read it in the bible but I wasn’t challenging myself enough in times when I needed it. I'd choose to do it 50% of the time and I just did it at a surface level which is to suppress emotions and escape the mind. I thought it was more of a, “It’s the right thing to do” so I’d try but I never really felt like it was much more than that. Then, one day I REALLY devoted myself to the challenge and I was amazed.
I can vividly recall this burning desire to feel my emotions with class and take my power back. I knew I’d gain self-respect if I could really conquer this so I looked in the mirror and literally gave myself a pep talk, haha. I told myself I was a woman with class, a woman that knew how to handle her emotions and that I was going to be a different caliber of a woman once I mastered this. First, I knew I had to become a student. If we haven't mastered something we must learn from those who have. I hopped on youtube and searched, “How to stay calm” and I began to listen to different testimonials on how others have done it until my mind collected enough information to follow. Some of the things that helped me were soft instrumental music, breathing, slowing down every movement I took during that day and repeating my mantra, “cool, calm and collected”. I still felt those emotions in my stomach and one of my teachers on youtube said, “You can feel those emotions but you can feel them calmly”. I sat in my thinking chair (yes I have a chair for thinking) and I began to allow sadness to release in tears, but calmly. After that, I swear I felt like a third eye opened up because I felt as though heaven was showing me different insights about my situation that were clouded with my own emotions. I began to feel thankful, love and deep compassion for those I felt had something to do with me being upset. I felt as though I meditated for 1 hour because I reached such a heightened state of love I had only felt a handful of times in my life. I was extremely shocked and it was then that I knew I had unveiled the power of what it meant to truly become still. I’m sure this lesson will continue to evolve and I’m going to continue to grow. I had so much faith that I would never be the same after that and I’m glad I put work into that challenge.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I deeply encourage all of us to continue to practice the power of stillness. It is transformational and if you would love support, I'm only a message away.
Peace and Love be with you!
I was sitting at the coffee shop talking to a stranger about social media and she said, “the hardest thing about deleting my social media is that it brings me comfort”. There have been moments in my life where I searched for surface-methods to avoid discomfort. My motives have all come from different roots. Some stemmed from fear of loss, others for the fear of the unknown and sometimes simply because I didn’t want to feel down so I’d distract myself from it. In hindsight I realize that all I was doing was teaching myself to seek comforting ways that helped me escape discomfort.
Focus is a powerful thing and it has the ability to almost hypnotize us on the action or thought we are hyper-focused on. Have you ever stared off into space and someone had to wave their hand in front of you to get you out of that trance? That’s what I mean. Now imagine those thoughts being tied to strong emotions like worry, fear, and insecurity. I want you to imagine a small box in your mind and label it with the emotion that those thoughts are emitting in you. Now, I want you to increase the size of the box in accordance with the time you spend overthinking about it. As the box gets bigger the easier it is for your mind to be tempted to place your focus back in because your mind prioritizes it. The bigger the box, the more important your mind thinks it is and it follows your command. It gets to the point where 75%, maybe even 80% of your day is spent in this box and you are overwhelmed therefore finding a way to escape your own mind.
TAKE BACK CONTROL
Your mind loves working on autopilot as much as it can to conserve energy but in moments like these, we want to take back control of the wheel. What does it look like? Well, this week at church I was reminded of a powerful word, encouragement. The best way to feel encouraged with no exterior sources is self-talk. If you have or haven’t tried it this does not matter, you need to be a coach to yourself to avoid bad habits of escaping this box. Social media, venting, overanalyzing, T.V., over eating, work and even gym won’t give you the same power. These may all feel good temporarily but you will quickly be pulled into that box because they all don’t have any specific intention to redirect your focus and only distract your focus. Self-talk can be affirmations, a mantra and even prayer. Your strategy is to gently command your mind to not place your focus there and instead you want to be present. This will take several attempts and constant repetition until you start regaining conscious-control. I suggest meditation, walks, slow breaths, instrumental music without words and a lot of observation of your surroundings. Get your mind back on interacting with your present.
To accept that these emotions don’t feel good but to respond through them in order to change your vibration is to have faith in the process. Building our faith is vital to our spiritual journey. I know how tempting it is to mute the box and just numb your emotions for even just 5 minutes, but I’m going to need you to breathe through it. Slow down your body and command your mind lovingly because you are more powerful than you think. Your present is unfolding before you and it’s your responsibility to be connected to its mysterious guidance. Your willingness to follow the flow of your life is more important than what pulls you into that box, trust me. In time, you will gain this golden wisdom that you never would have if not for this challenge but for now, have a little faith and start the process.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
You are powerful and you have all the strength you need to face anything that brings you discomfort. If support is what you need, I’m only a message away.
Peace & Love be with you!
I laid in bed running the same fears in my mind that had been controlling me all week. Day after day I felt as though my emotions were drowning me. Fortunately, because I was busy I was able to compartmentalize my emotions and show up for my responsibilities. On the other hand, when I was away from anything that required my full attention, I’d sink back into the emotions that made me feel confused and doubtful. I didn’t know what I needed.
There are windows of interruption in moments where we feel off and distracted by things that don’t empower us. These interruptions are seeds of suggestion that are given to us by our intuition. Some believe their intuition is connected to a higher power and for me it’s God. I was praying all week for some guidance and there it was in my mind in the form of a vision. I saw the beach so vividly I could smell the wet sand and feel the misty breeze. This triggered an idea in my head to go on my run I look forward to every Saturday. Although I had all these reasons as to why I should stay in bed, I knew better than to disobey my intuition so I got up and drove to the beach.
As I drove to the beach I noticed a word in my head, reset. I didn’t try to over analyze why this word came up, I just took it as Heaven's way of telling me that's what I was on my way to do. I turned off my stereo and drove in silence. I challenged my mind to stay present and asked it to let go of any thoughts that would come up. I got to the beach, stood next to the pier near the water where I like to start my runs and felt like I was meant to be there. I ran with no music so that I could meditate to the sound of the crashing waves since the beach was quiet and not too busy. While on my run I accidentally ran in a large puddle of water and my feet were soaked! I laughed and the word, cleansed came into my mind. I smiled and thought, “Yes, I needed that!”. After my run I stretched on the wet sand and I felt renewed. I walked back to my car to head to my favorite local juice shop and felt so thankful. I was glad that I had listened to intuition.
I NEEDED REMINDING
I left the juice shop with my pressed juice, wrap in hand and I thought to myself, “Wow, I suddenly feel like myself”. I put on my headset, looked up to the sky at the same time the song, “Look up child” came on. This song is about God reminding us who we are and how powerful we are. I didn’t know that I needed a reminder of who I was. Just like that, I felt stronger and certain that anything that came my way I’d be able to overcome.
MESSAGE FROM VICTORIA GOLD
I know we may get overwhelmed with events in our lives, maybe mistakes or even new beginnings. Sometimes those fears and doubts become our focus and dominant vibration in our bodies. I hope that when we have those windows of interruptions, we obey our intuition, reset our mind and allow life to remind us of our true aura. Peace & love be with you and remember I'm only a message away!
We get into situations where we feel like we've invested too much, we’d be a fool to stop or maybe we won’t be in a better situation. We contemplate different scenarios in our heads about how it would look like to keep going or how it would look like to stop. What would it mean to start again?
To start again can sometimes confuse us into thinking we are giving up. To give up a dream, a goal or an idea that brings us hope, is to literally kill it in our psyche. Killing something in our mind that brought us hope is, I believe worse than never having had it at all. The outcome of this can be detrimental because we don’t realize how connected we are to it. To give something up by choice can have a way of changing our outlook on life. We may begin a domino effect and lose motivation in other areas of our lives as well. I believe giving up comes best when it absolutely harms our inner peace and what we are giving up was simply coming from egotistical motives. In this case, giving up will only build us up. I’ve had moments where instead of starting again for the 6th time I’d rather give up altogether, but If I strongly feel that I was called to pursue something, I start again.
ARE WE STARTING FROM SCRATCH?
Sometimes it may feel like if we start anything over again, we’ll start from scratch but I don’t think that’s the case. Thankfully, every time we go through something we have the opportunity to grow through it. I was helping a friend organize their kitchen and let me tell you, it was extremely disorganized! I took out everything from the drawers and placed them on a table. This allowed me to do two things: examine the empty drawers and examine everything that had occupied those drawers. As soon as I started to identify what would remain in the kitchen and what wouldn’t, I began to gain massive momentum and with that momentum I was able to finish. When we clear things off entirely, it may seem like we’re starting from scratch but instead we are able to start again. When we start over, we get a chance to see our reality from a distance. We can take a moment to lay out all our actions on the table and sort out the ones that will remain from the ones that won’t. In doing so, we are able to clearly envision the path we want to take so that it aligns with our true intentions.
REVIVING OUR VISION
Starting again can revamp many things in our life including our vision. Reviving our vision can help us stimulate the passion we had when we first started. It can inspire us and refresh our hope. We can put together the insights we’ve gained thus far so that we may build a strong foundation to carry out our vision. Rebuilding our foundation can be pivotal in the longevity of our journey. There will still be challenges along the way and no one is immune to that but this will build confidence throughout the process. I will end this with a quote by Meister Eckart, “And suddenly you know: It's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings”.
Message from Victoria GOLD
Starting again is magical and it re-aligns you in a way that could've never been possible without making those previous mistakes. Peace and love be with you & remember I’m only a message away!