It is normal to have baggage. You are not less worthy of love because of it. In fact, if you are living and breathing, you have acquired baggage. Therefore, I do not think the mystery is if you have baggage or not, but rather, how do you sort through it?
Do you know of people that have never been the same after a rough break up? Often, a broken heart can create baggage that was once never there, modifying how we live from that point on. We can best define disordered baggage as the poor perceptions we have engraved into our life's identity after a traumatic experience, big or small. The "what is and will be '' perspectives on love, family, self-image, etc. These limiting beliefs get in the way of sincerely being our most authentic self. Living in fear through the ego's judgment to keep you away from feeling hurt and insignificant. In this degree, when we allow our ego to take the wheel of our life, we obey any demand from it and modify who we are not to feel that way again.
A damaged ego can easily become a strong influence on our character if we aren’t sorting through the baggage. Your ego's job is to be certain you are surviving, and one of its strategies is always to set you in a position of significance. Constantly measuring your significance level in any situation by the perceptions and judgments it has collected thus far. To the ego, significance means being out of harm's way, determining you are in a status destined to survive. When you go through an event that makes you feel insignificant, the ego fights to regain significance, and if it’s placed in this position over and over, you may have one of two outcomes: 1. You will grow accustomed to it, which in other words, settle for less. 2. You will grow resentful, and significance won’t be enough; you will seek superiority. We do this unconsciously, to the point that it becomes a part of our behavior and soon our personality. If this happens unconsciously... you guessed it! We must become conscious of what is and has happened to be capable of sorting out the baggage.
SORTING THROUGH THE BAGGAGE
Take a moment and examine your perceptions, behavior, and beliefs; how have they got there? Discovering parts about you that you created at some point were never there are. As you question every thought, I encourage you to ask, "Does this embody the life I desire to live?". I suggest not answering with logic, but rather from your intuition, your inner compass. Feel every question, not by emotion but by spirit, and that can only come from being at a place of intense vulnerability, no walls up. This allows the soul's language to influence your spirit's vibration onto your physical vibration, where it will then be felt through your senses and communicated to the mind. It's time to take a moment of silence to question every perception, accept what comes forth, and challenge your every answer.
Peace and Love be with you always.
-Love, Victoria GOLD